Today in Snaqwells History

23Sep/1010

Today in Snaqwells History

I'm going to take a moment, a day really, to celebrate an event that should have never had to happen. It's now after midnight here in Chicago, so it's Friday, September 24th. I will be returning home later today, and it will be a rather sentimental and emotional homecoming for me.

In June of 2009, I filed for divorce for reasons that really don't matter at this point. After a summer of deep animosity and struggle, during which she never gave up on me, I collapsed in a heap in a hotel room in Montana. I returned home that night, went to the house to help put the kids to bed; had a pleasant evening with her and then returned to my apartment. The next night, September 24th, was different. After putting the kids to bed, I returned again to my apartment and cried some more. Not 5 minutes after I got home, I called her on the phone. I told her I was going to call my attorney and tell him to call off the whole thing; and she told me to come home.

I won't go so far as to suggest every marriage can or should be salvaged; but in direct opposition to so many words I uttered in the summer of 2009, mine was both worthy and capable of being saved. We celebrated 12 years this past June, but today is my 1 year celebration of clarity.

Adam Wells

Living life at 84 mph and 7000 feet. All I ask is that you don't block traffic, act like a professional, and don't act all surprised when your actions have consequences. Oh, and don't complain about the refs; trust me, they don't care if your team wins or not.

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Mr. Bingley
September 24th, 2010 - 04:42

Marriage is work, and sometimes work sucks. But it’s still worth it. Congratulations on working to fulfill and honor your vows. You have done your children an invaluable service.

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enoch_root
September 24th, 2010 - 04:47

Yes. Amen. Congratulations. God bless your Union.

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Dan Collins
September 24th, 2010 - 05:58

What they said.

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Dave C
September 24th, 2010 - 06:24

For what it’s worth from me, congratulations.

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The Sanity Inspector
September 24th, 2010 - 07:29

Congratulations on preserving your marriage. I see so many marriages which are launched & abandoned seemingly on whims. It’s great to see someone willing to swallow their pride & fight for it.

Me, I learned early on that being a husband was like being mugged. As soon as I shut up and handed over my wallet, things were fine.

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- snaqwells
  September 24th, 2010 - 10:10
  
  Now that’s the sort of thing that will make me spit out my soda and make the people at O’Hare look at me funny.
  
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  - Enoch_Root
    September 24th, 2010 - 11:58
    
    seconded – but not in Ohare.
    
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Johanna
September 24th, 2010 - 10:47

Congrats for working it out. We are at 7 years this year. Been through a helluva lot myself, but sticking it out was the greatest decision I ever made. I’m a very lucky gal.

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Dede
September 24th, 2010 - 19:20

Good for you!!! And congratulations. I was married for 18 months and it was 17 months and 3 weeks too long…..and I will not ever do that again. But I am in awe of those who can and do make that work. So I supposed that makes me in awe of you. Don’t get used to it. :)

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- snaqwells
  September 25th, 2010 - 09:18
  
  I was just started to get comfortable on my pedastel.
  In all honesty, while I’m proud of swallowing my pride and making it work; I’m not proud of the fact that I really just solved a problem of my own creation.
  Sort of like starting a house on fire and being held up as a hero for rescuing a baby out of that house.
  
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