The Unseemly Gloating Speculation About the End of Weiner’s Marriage

7Jun/113

The Unseemly Gloating Speculation About the End of Weiner’s Marriage

When a hack politician loses his job for ridiculous and/or disgusting behavior, more the lying in this case than anything else, it's fair game in my book. It can even be funny, as my friend @seedubya notes, the way most catastrophes that befall people whom we dislike are. But when people start to contemplate with glee the possible end of that politician's marriage, assuming he wants to keep it, that's really pretty vile.

Are conservatives pro-family? Do most of us regard marriage as a sacrament and a sacred covenant? If we do, it's reproachful for us to carry on this way.

SONNET 116

Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

Now, that's pretty sly. On the surface, it's very idealistic, very neo-Platonic. But if you examine the language very carefully, you'll find that it is deliberately designed to create loopholes, in anticipation of the couplet and it's legalese. The point is that human love is not as Divine Love, constant, that true minds are seldom as true as they would like to believe themselves, or have others believe them.

That is why it is necessary to treat marriage, whatever we may think of the parties so conjoined, as a sacrament . . . even if one of them is a complete jackass.

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jefferson101
June 7th, 2011 - 20:25

It could be remarked. My wife and I took a vow, “..before God and This Company”, that we would be married until death do us part.

And after 38 years and change, I can tell you that the fact that we took that vow seriously is the only reason we are still married. (Well, that and the fact that neither of us took our homicidal impulses too seriously…)

Particularly in today’s culture, where divorce is as easy, and probably just as socially acceptable as marriage, you have to really mean what you said if it’s going to work. It is work, sometimes.

OTOH, once you clear 38 years, it’s down to the point where it’s only work a couple of times a week, on a good week. (It’s really not that bad, most weeks, but it still can be a challenge on occasion.)

There’s no human wisdom to account for it. We’re both still here because we both want to be. Reminding yourselves and each other of that fact will get you through some of the rough places.

I really hope that Tony and his Lady can get through this. Regardless of what I think of their political leanings, they should be able to spend their lives with the partner they chose.

He needs some abuse, but he needs to remember that he deserves it, and she needs to remember when to quit. If they can do that, they might make it in spite of it all.

Or, at least I think so. I’ve never done anything nearly that dumb, and I still get abused on occasion. And there are times when I have it coming.

FWIW.

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- Bob Reed
  June 7th, 2011 - 22:16
  
  Divorce is very commonplace, and as you say socially acceptable, in our society; often for reasons of stubborness, selfishness, and pridefullness rather than an actual betrayal. Hence the justification of “irreconcilable differences”.
  
  I’m not being judgemental here; people can and will due what suits them, and sometimes poor decisions, both to marry as well as to throw in the towel, are taken to lightly.
  
  Folks need to seriously consider that they take their vows befor God and the loved ones, and in the words of the good book; “Therefore what God has joined, let no man put asuder”. (Matthew 19:6)
  
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Bob Reed
June 7th, 2011 - 22:09

From the very beginning I’ve my heart has went out to Weiner’s wife Huma. While I’m certain the she and I wouldn’t see things eye-to-eye when it comes to politics, She certainly doesn’t deserve the kind of base betrayal and public humiliation concomitant with the “Weiner-gate” revealations.

In fact, I take little pleasure in this whole unseemly spectacle. Sure, he’s a pompous, self-important ass. Still, I hope that Weiner has learned a lesson and will turn his life around, in all ways; but based on the ease with which he lied, I fear that may not be the case.

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